You must go hard for those who always meet you EXACTLY where you are, instead of where they want you to be.
Be it family, chosen family, close friends, even strangers, there is a sense of inevitable gratitude when you come across those, who, despite it all, will always be there to remind you you are loved.
It’s hard to admit that sometimes the love we give comes with stipulations and expectations, which is to say we love when others meet our conditions. We love the idea of what others, can be. We fall in love with potential instead of the reality. We fall into the habit of hardly meeting people for being exactly who they are. Nothing less. Nothing more.
Then there are humans who are gems.
They are rare.
They are gifts from god reminding you how blessed your corner of the world is.
This isn’t to say people who meet you where you are, are passive. On the contrary, these are the people who will check you, inspire you, motivate you. They will tell you more about yourself than you may even realize, at the time. They will help you navigate the (factual) reality of, the narrative we hear in our heads, which is often (self) created because of a mechanism. This mechanism while it serves a purpose, (often to protect, avoid, defend,) it inevitably also serves as a huge road block- in our way, keeping us with a head full of excuses instead of solutions.
Pay attention to those who help you navigate this.
Pay attention to those who are willing to step into tough-love to call you out on your bullshit.
Pay attention to those who listen with no intention of making any sense of your life for THEIR rationale, but instead, listen knowing they are no one to tell you what’s best for you, but will stand by you hoping you find your way.
Pay attention to those who will let you make your mistakes, even when they warned you, but will be there to help you pick up the mess from your treason.
If you have people like this in your life, in your corner, by your side- I hope you recognize just how blessed you are. I hope you realize how much of Life’s lottery you did win. I hope it inspires you to share the wealth and to be that kind of person for someone else, too.